sharlenethelifecoach@gmail.com
sharlenedavis.com
Phoenix Rising
Melt Your Stress, Find Peace: Unleash Greatness!
Sharlene is your go-to human being for ladies who are looking for ways to master stress and anxiety, and to develop inner peace. She is an island girl, from Jamaica in the Caribbean, who lives in the UK. Sharlene blends more than 10 years of experience as a magazine-published and featured make-up artist with life coaching. As a certified life coach, she uses her empathetic nature, listening skills, plus a sprinkle of kindness, to intuitively guide clients through life challenges. Her passion for helping others grew even stronger during the pandemic, when she volunteered through a non-profit to help local participants in her community to find peace and purpose. She is a true polymath, with passions from songwriting and languages to quiz shows. Whether you’re chasing life goals, a fan of “The Chase” or just need a listening ear, she is here to help you turn fury to focus. Connect with her on this journey together!
What is your niche (coaching focus) and how did you choose it?
Intuitive stress management coaching is my coaching focus. I chose this niche because almost 20 years ago, during some of my most troublesome times, I met a mentor who often encouraged me to use my intuition. I developed an interest and curiosity in intuitiveness. In the past, I used stress as an excuse for bad behavior and poor decisions. I was desperate for peace at the time. This niche chose me; I noticed that my clients in my job as a make-up artist would disclose how stressed they were and how they wanted to find peace—just like I did. As I became more successful at learning to master my stress, I decided to help others and to create this niche of intuitive stress management.
Who is your ideal client?
My ideal clients are females who are struggling with issues associated with stress such as anxiety, low self-esteem, lack of self-trust, self-criticism, emotional reactivity, poor boundaries and relationship challenges.
What inspired you to become a life coach?
During the darkest, gloomiest and most stress-filled time of my life, I was lucky enough to receive the gift of life coaching. This had a powerful, transformational and positive affect in every area of my life. I wanted to help others so that they did not have to struggle and suffer like I did. My life changed from a state of victimhood, with a mindset of oppression and blame, to excitement and empowerment—and I wish that for everyone!
How long have you been coaching?
My interest in the field of well-being spans over 30 years, I’ve always been seeking powerful and practical solutions for my pain and problems. My transformative experience of having life coaching sessions revolutionized my life from feeling miserable, broken and fueled by drama to one of purpose, peace and possibilities. My practice as a life coach was born over 7 years ago. I learned from the school of hard knocks, as well as from undertaking several certifications in the areas of meditation, stress and anger management, life coaching and hypnotherapy. And now I’m obsessed with helping others in my role of intuitive stress, anger and life transformation artist. Doctor Maya Angelou inspired me via her famous quote “When you learn, teach. When you get, give.” I thought that I had no one to turn to during my then-lonely struggles, and I am dedicated to help others so that they don’t feel as alone as I felt. By the way, you’re not alone and you’re never alone.
How did you get your first client?
I got my first client while working as a make-up artist. I reached out to models and clients. During our conversations, they would regularly express how stressed out they were. I phoned one of my makeup models who had previously mentioned that she was constantly stressed. We had a few paid sessions together, which were heavily discounted; I was scared she wouldn’t agree if I charged more. In fact, I was afraid that she would not agree to being coached by me. However, she was grateful for my support and went on to post about her results on social media platforms and groups, and even recommended me to her loved ones—and she strongly suggested that I raise my rates.
How has your coaching journey changed your life?
Coaching has boosted my confidence, given me fulfillment and improved my communication skills. It has helped me to create better boundaries and relationships, created less stress, assisted me to develop more emotional intelligence, and enhanced my intuition. Coaching has helped me to find renewed energy, to solve problems, and to go from miserable and gloomy to having a fun, excited outlook on life, and to help others to do the same.
What is the most challenging part of being a life coach?
One of the most challenging parts of being a life coach is not having a supportive, like-minded community. I faced criticism, backlash and what I consider projection from a few people who weren’t happy with me changing for the better. I created my Facebook group and book club “Elevate Your Goal Game” for women like me who face similar challenges and who have similar interests.
What is the most fulfilling part of being a life coach?
I continue to ask questions of myself and to learn daily. I’ve learned to be more patient, encouraging and compassionate to myself and other human beings. Coaching has helped me to be less reactive, to learn to respond instead of having angry outbursts. It has changed how I communicate and benefits my relationships. Coaching helps me to be the best me, which trickles over to my clients and their loved ones and hopefully to others globally.
What has been your most inspirational coaching moment, with a client?
I once met a stranger in my local library who asked me what I was doing. I told her that I was studying life coaching, and that I had been a life coach for several years. This courageous lady then proceeded to ask me if I could teach her everything that I knew. I felt somewhat scared and hesitant, but I remembered that Maya Angelou quote “When you learn, teach. When you get, give.” She became my first mentee, and she has had coaching sessions with more than a dozen people. She’s a devout Christian who prays about everything. She has inspired me by telling me that I’m doing God’s work. She says that coaching has changed her relationships with her children, and that her relationships and communication style have improved. She has niched herself as a Christian relationship coach and continues to learn through books and courses. I’m proud of and inspired by her commitment and bravery to ask for what she wanted, and this has opened doors for her. This experience has encouraged me to be laser focused on learning.
What is your favorite coaching activity or exercise to do with clients?
I love asking powerful questions, listening, leading with my heart and using silence. I have found questions useful for unearthing life lessons and discovering solutions as our answers are often within. I have created a self-coaching, self-healing relationship breakup journal for women struggling to move on from heartbreak. This is based on powerful questions and techniques that I use with my clients, plus personal experience over the years.
What has been the most effective strategy for finding clients and/or growing your business?
Reaching out to people in my circle has been one of my most effective methods. Also, being human in an AI age. Listening to people’s needs, paying attention, being led by empathy. In the past, I have offered a few free introductory chats that led to several referrals, recommendations and speaking opportunities. I was referred to a local charity, which led to me assisting dozens of people during and after the pandemic, and this continues to lead to referrals and recommendations. Do not be afraid to speak to people in real life. Find out their issues. Offer to help them. Your barista at your favorite coffee shop could become the client who spreads the word and helps to propel your business forward. And I have recently updated my website and will be available on Google’s search engine since I am offering self-help coaching tools and group coaching sessions to more clients.
What advice would you give YOURSELF back when you first dreamed of becoming a coach?
The advice that I would give myself back when I first dreamed of becoming a coach is: “Your voice, your experiences and your story matter.” I would have started sooner instead of making excuses as to why I couldn’t do it. As Joel Riviera says in Transformation Academy’s life coach certification, “The world needs what you have to offer.” I had an interest over 20 years ago, but truthfully was focused on excuses and distractions. I’d tell myself to prioritize this life-changing opportunity—which has helped me to assist numerous people and to develop as a better person. Practice and embody coaching. Coach yourself, coach in your imagination, coach scenarios from TV programs, even song lyrics, fictional characters in books. Most importantly, coach real people and get coached yourself! Get books on coaching. Make a few of these books your coaching bibles or like your religious texts. Read them over and over again. Also take courses: Transformation Academy’s courses are affordable and effective, and, since they are always available online, you can take them over and over again or dive in where you feel like exploring.
What is the impact you want to make in this world?
I have assisted hundreds of clients worldwide and would love to help thousands more. Can you imagine a world where we are leading with love, less fearful, getting better at managing stress, creating joy, improving our health and generating more positivity? By the way, it’s not about toxic positivity, its reality. And with real positivity, we can create a ripple effect: have fewer internal and external wars, raise the vibration of this planet and touch each other’s hearts and lives.
Is there anything else you would like to share with Transformation Coaching Magazine readers?
Transformation Academy goes beyond excellence and does invaluable work. If you’re thinking of doing courses with TA, I’d encourage you to run and not walk. Immerse yourself in these priceless, life-enhancing courses. I feel like the trainers are right here with me, holding my hands virtually. Joel Riviera’s personal stories of overcoming challenging life issues are touching and inspiring. I must add that his experience of losing his brother resonates with me having had a similar experience with my own brother. I consider these training courses as gifts made with love. Thank you, Transformation Academy, for all the hard work that you do. Also, my mentor in my head, Sanda Kruger: Your teachings and insights are exactly what I need!
