How to stay open to infinite possibilities.
By Terez Hartmann
Now What?
It’s the 11th hour, and what you were expecting may or may not pan out the way you had hoped. Do you:
- Cry, scream, have a total meltdown?
- Hold out for hope and only experience relief if a miracle happens, otherwise, default to option “a”?
- Do what you CAN and keep moving forward: No. Matter. What?
- Do a combination of “a” and “c”?
Though we ALL have chosen every one of these options (and I, for one, have chosen option “a” more times than I care to admit), I have found that option “c” or “d” tends to come with a lot less extended heartache and is far more likely to bring you to a place where you can truly turn things around.
Most of us who have been alive for more than five minutes have come to know that if there is one constant to life it is CHANGE…
…But when unexpected changes arise that create VERY different results than what you had imagined, sometimes the last thing we want to do is make change our BFF.
Often, THE go-to thing to do involves sitting, waiting, sulking or spending a lot of time licking our wounds. And while allowing time for self-care and emotional processing IS extremely healthy and helpful, spending extended time wallowing, playing the blame-game, or analyzing what went wrong from every angle only slows forward motion and blocks the next blessing or opportunity that may be waiting just around the corner.
What is a focused, hardworking, proactive human to do when life goes south—and not in a happy vacation-holiday-sort-of-way?
Get back to MOVING your mind (and body) forward. Try these ideas on for size:
- Master the Art of the “Pivot” and Do What You CAN.
Okay. So, the thing of the moment didn’t pan out. Though you can’t change what “is” in this moment, you CAN set the wheels in motion for what is coming NEXT. What is your next move? What CAN you do to move forward in some way in some area of your life right now?
Once you pivot to identify what you CAN do now—and then actually follow through and DO it—you get a nice boost of confidence, provide yourself with evidence of forward motion, and get the Law of Attraction on board to bring you more things to match those fab feelings of accomplishment!
…And before you know it, that “failure” or “less-than” experience that tripped you up simply becomes a stepping stone on the stairway to the EPIC good that is coming NEXT!
—Is there another aspect of your career or project that you CAN work on right now?
—Are there opportunities to meet new people or make new contacts that you CAN be a part of now?
—Is there something else you’ve REALLY been wanting to do, that you just didn’t have the time to get off the ground before, but that you CAN do now?
—Is there something that you CAN do in your home/workspace/vehicle to create more order, beauty or flow right now?
—Is there something you CAN do to honor your body/mind/spirit or relationships right now?
- Allow for BIGGER, Better and Even More Fabulous: Stay Open to INFINITE Possibilities!
There are SOOO many times in my life that I felt crushed when a certain thing/event/relationship/etc. didn’t become “it.” But in all honestly, there are just as many times that I have found myself singing extended praises to the Universe because what became the ultimate “it” made the other thing look like a veritable crumb on a bountiful five-star buffet of life! Yes, I was bummed at the time, but once I dusted myself off and started doing what I could to move forward in some way (see item #1), lo and behold, the prize that was indeed waiting around the corner (case in point, my husband, my current home, the flow of my career, and my LIFE in general) was FAR bigger, better, and even more fabulous than ANY past moment in time! Thank God for unanswered prayers!!!
Sometimes we humans can also get waaay too attached to a particular path, strategy or person. And, as stated above, when that singular, specific source doesn’t deliver the goods, it’s let-down city! But when you remember that Life, the Universe, and Everything is FAR more resourceful than any ONE human, opportunity or thing, you open yourself up to a fabulous array of infinite possibilities! Sometimes the “thing” of the moment is simply meant to open the door or start you on your path, but life may have FAR bigger plans and a tag-team of a new, more refined set of players who have what it takes to lead you to the proverbial finish line.
—What bonuses, upgrades and happy surprises have YOU experienced in YOUR life?
—When in your life did you receive something FAR better than what you thought you wanted at an earlier moment?
—When in your life did you start out with one idea/job/relationship but “end” with something entirely different?
—What if the thing of the moment didn’t work out so that something BIGGER, Better and Even More Fabulous CAN?!
- Get to the HEART of the Matter & BIG Picture.
You REALLY wanted THAT gig, THAT person, THAT home, THAT _____, but often there is a MUCH bigger picture behind all the things we think we want. There have definitely been times that I wanted some VERY specific things to work out in my life—especially when they had to do with paying bills, getting to a certain opportunity, or meeting a certain timeline—but more often than not, I discovered that I actually managed to confuse the “how” or “means” with the actual “what” and “why.”
Each time I allowed myself to get to the HEART of the matter, discover the BIG picture behind the desire of the moment, and make THAT my focus and target, I have indeed been astonished by the magic and multifaceted solutions that life has provided! So, on that note:
—When you take the time to look at your intentions/goals and desires of the moment, what “theme” do they all have in common?
—What is the core FEELING you think realizing a certain goal/intention will give you?
The Bottom Line: When “Life” Happens, Just Keep Moving!
We all have our moments, my friends, and when the wound is fresh, it can definitely take a moment to get back in the saddle. But after all of the crazy setbacks and challenges that have come my way, I can honestly say that EVERY time I have allowed my mind and body to get back to moving forward in some way, resources, beautiful solutions, awesome ideas, helpful people, and new opportunities have ALWAYS followed.
Change exists to encourage movement, for movement IS life. So, here’s to:
—Accepting the invitation to let change move you toward greater clarity, joy, and evolution
—Doing what you CAN right now
—Staying open to allowing infinite possibilities for GOOD
—Staying true to the HEART and BIG picture behind our dreams and visions
…and to knowing we can keep growing forward through ALL conditions.
Author’s Note: For more ways to keep moving Onward, Upward, and Forward beyond life challenges, CLICK HERE.
Terez “Firewoman” Hartmann is a Visionary Creative & top-rated instructor, Law of Attraction & Allowing YOUR Success specialist, published author, speaker, singer-songwriter, recording & performing artist & composer, “Catalyst for Fab-YOU-lous” and true Renaissance Woman who has already helped over 10,000 students in over 130 countries allow success and live life on FIRE. She is deeply passionate about helping other Powerful Creatives and Leading-Edge Thinkers live unique, empowered lives on their terms by cultivating the courage to dream, to express themselves boldly & authentically, and to focus Onward, Upward and Forward into new possibilities. http://www.terezfirewoman.com
